perfect type（Reformer / Perfectionist）

Wishing to do everything well, always self-examining to see if I have made any mistakes and to improve the mistakes of others, feeling that I should incorporate all the moral standards of the universe into the order, so that I will not make mistakes or be criticized and have a troubled conscience.

Perfect people have the most perfect ideals and goals, so their power comes from pushing the world toward their ideal goals and strive hard. Since perfect people are very intelligent themselves, they have strong judgment and are physically practical and down-to-earth, so in order to catch up with their ideal goals, they always make themselves energized, struggle relentlessly, and die before they die.

Give all their heart and soul for the good order of the whole universe. They are very moral people. They are honest and fair, do not show the weaknesses of human nature, and hold themselves to a high standard and hope that all people will be able to reach this standard under their reform.

In fact, to achieve the standard of human perfection, it is very difficult, but the perfect type of people are not willing to accept the things that can not be overcome, so every day life in the struggle of the struggle. They can not meet the standard, not satisfied with themselves, others can not meet the standard, it is more angry, into every thing is not good, others stagger them together to feel the pressure is great, and they themselves are easy to be angry every day.

A. They look dignified, noble and serious from their facial expression.

B. Clothing is very neat, clean, and meticulous.

C．The house is kept clean and orderly, all things are put in a fixed place, and family members are also required to comply with the rules.

D．Cleaning up the environment while scolding and nagging.

E．Criticizing others, as if no one and no matter is satisfactory.

F．Punctuality and orderliness make people feel faulty.

G．It's hard to sit down and rest when you have a nail in your ass, and you always have something to do.

H．Never say sweet words, but like to pick the bones in the eggs.

I．Love to save face, often very angry but not express, so the face expression is stiff.

J．When someone else does a good job, he or she is always uneasy.

K．The heart is very fine, pay attention to small details, so busy all day long.

L．Thinks in an old-fashioned way, does not know how to use humor, has no flexibility, and uses dichotomy to judge things.

M. Not soft, hard to accept other people's warmth and affection, and will criticize the lack of etiquette.

N．The person tries hard to make progress, but if he/she finds that he/she is not making progress, he/she will be very dissatisfied with himself/herself.

The perfect type of people know that anger is very ugly, but also very imperfect, but because of the requirements of everything under their own, giving themselves a good deal of pressure, and to see others Bo not conscientious, angry emotions such as the river broke the levee, the mountains and seas come.

Perfect people, of course, this life is obsessed with the goal of perfection, so they set up their own rules and order, every thing to measure, assess, and hope that they are doing things in a clear and orderly, but life is unpredictable, want to maintain constancy, is simply incredible. However, perfect people do not believe in impermanence, demanding themselves very strictly, and others are no problem, so that people around them staggering exhaustion, full of pressure, obsessed with perfection will become very imperfect.

Perfectionist people, as if as long as they find themselves not towards justice, or the truth of the road, will be very dissatisfied with themselves, to change immediately, and their way to change is extreme, can be immediately transferred from this end to that end, the distortion can be seen. For example, if one wants to rest and have a good meal, one immediately warns oneself that this is too corrupt, and immediately interrupts the thought, does not rest , and eats whatever one wants.

Small and large events are afraid to entrust others, everything is the perfect type of person is the most waste of energy, in addition, do things carefully, pay too much attention to the small details, but also will be the energy consumption and can not have a big construction, big progress.

Maybe there is a more strict or self-demanding elders, very good guidance and criticism. As a result of not getting encouragement and praise from others since childhood, so in the extreme thirst, turn to ask themselves to do their best, because there is a demand for perfection of the heart, so always self-examination, the results of the introspection found that they do not work hard enough, and will be harsh on themselves, so that their conscience is condemned, and therefore live a very tired, hard, and at this moment if you see other people are comfortable, lazy, and free and easy, you can not help but hate from the If you see others comfortable, lazy, and free, you can't help but hate them from the bottom of your heart, and feel annoyed, frustrated, and resentful.

The Perfectionist is always dissatisfied with the current situation and tries to improve it. When they are not loved, they emphasize that I am right, I am kind, and they have a lot of anger. Anger is not good, and they are not allowed to experience anger, and they use anger to criticize anger and suppress their own emotional conflicts. They do not face up to the fact that there is anger in their hearts, and they avoid anger.

Can not experience their own wrong, wrong and good can not exist at the same time, the wrong, the negative side of the projection on others (will punish others for minor faults, but pardoned their own major mistakes)，Not good never enter the consciousness, often used in reverse (feel their own desire to control this desire, deliberately behave contrary to what they really want to do)，Not good are outside, it is not good to say that good, resentment in the conversation to show, often on the edge, voice is often nervous. He is always on the edge, his voice is always tense, his inner strong criticism is on others, he has never experienced his own satisfaction level, his standard is to be reached now, but the reality is not able to reach the standard, he pursues fulfillment but cannot reach fulfillment, and he constantly has to revise the whole world because of the lack of fulfillment.

He sees himself as a defender of the truth, as someone who wants to make everyone better, as a slave to the will of the people, and as a general rule, as a hard worker, honest, fair, responsible, and trustworthy.

Fear of condemnation in order to satisfy people, to do what no one else has anything to say, to do what others are satisfied with, to say what is satisfactory, in order to behave impeccably to avoid being criticized and blamed.

Self-promoters, never good enough, often at war with imperfection, cannot tolerate wrong, do good at war with sin .

Attention to many details, many grievances to come out, overly alert to their own imperfections, care about their time, do not waste time there are many things to do, not as angry as where it comes from, the greatest fulfillment is to do a lot of hard work on the good, very right.

Very positive, stable, has a great deal of peace, brings peace where it is needed, continually pushes himself and others for growth in spirituality, allows his own nature to surface elsewhere can be imperfect, very fair in defense of the oppressor, has the ability to see the good in others, will stimulate others to work in the direction of good, principled, idealistic, not selfish, has high ideals, ideas, does not force others, has good judgment Sensitive, can help others to see the key to things, the problem and the overall situation, very naturally the reality and ideals with a very down-to-earth, think clearly, abide by the moral importance of truth, fairness, straightforwardness, objectivity, high tolerance, trustworthy, reasonable, is a moral mentor.

Perfectionist --- Always tell yourself: there is no absolute perfection in the world! Demanding perfection results in bringing pressure on oneself and others, and the more it disrupts the balance and harmony around you, the less perfect the result will be.

When you want to criticize, complain or correct yourself → Stop the urge → Give yourself some time to relax → Find some leisure time to express your obsession and energy.