- I don't easily get into conflict with people, if someone hurts me, as long as it's something not too taboo, I'll just sulk and forget about it.
- I encounter the need to choose, often hesitant, I do not do unsure of things, let go of the chance is not big.
- I don't flatter others, I don't spoil other people's fun, I don't speak with barbs, I use polite words to make friends.
- I respect my elders and depend on my family, but if they are too strict, I don't bother and revel in doing what I want.
- I don't think reading is the most important thing, people live with the rhythm of the natural universe.
- I don't want to think about the future because there are too many variables, so I'd rather enjoy the present.
- When I do something wrong, I make excuses and forgive myself to make myself feel better, because although I look indifferent on the surface, I am actually very weak inside.
- I often neglect my own needs in order to be concerned about whether others feel happy or not, and therefore often conform to others.
- I am optimistic and don't want to go too deep into anything, I just go with the flow anyway, so my mind is calm and I am not active enough, and other people will think I move too slowly.
- I'm calm and at ease, and there's nothing worth bothering about. I always think everyone is fine!
- Try to stay out of things where there is conflict because it's just too much of a hassle.
- I don't know how nice it would be to have a cozy, comfortable space to laze around in.
- Everyone's opinion will be different, so what does it matter, I take everyone's opinion as my opinion anyway.
- Life is not that serious. What's wrong with taking it easy every day and just getting on with it?
- People think I am always fine, calm, stable and easy-going, but sometimes I am really messed up and sentimental.
- God, why are there always scenes of conflict? I'm going to run away when I have a chance.
- There are so many things to do, I really want to go to bed.
- I actually like to think about things, I just don't say them out loud, if I did, you'd be surprised at my wisdom, I'm not empty headed.
- Why do people fight for fame and fortune all day long, in fact, so what? I would rather enjoy nature is beauty, this realm is much safer.
- Play ball, climb the mountain, race, sweat out how refreshing, just wondering how no one has come to ask me out yet?
I. Motivation, Purpose
They feel that if there are no quarrels or conflicts and no unpleasant things happen, everyone can live together harmoniously and be happy, so they will keep themselves smooth and calm first, then it is possible not to make people angry or have things happen.
II. Sources of Ability and Power
They don't like conflicts, so when others have conflicts, they have the power to do their best to smooth out the conflicts. Due to their own calmness, when they are with them, they seem to have a natural power to pacify, and their emotions are hard to be agitated, so they have the most ability to solve unpleasant disputes.
III. Ideal Goals
Their ideal goal is a cosmopolitan world, where people can develop their own strengths, where there is no resentment or disputes, where there is equal opportunity for princes, nobles and illiterate people, and where people grow naturally like the grass and trees.
The Emotion of Avoidance - Conflict
They believe that after the night, the dawn will come naturally, the mountains are endless, the willow bank flowers and a village, so there is no need for anxiety, worry, everything will be done, what is worth fussing about, they would rather sacrifice their own unique sense of avoiding conflict, and become living in peace, no emotions, whitewash.
V. Qualities that appear in daily life
A. Mild, smooth, calm, light in matters, not inviting credit.
B. Listen to others, do not express their opinions and do not take the initiative.
C. scolded him often do not respond, nor defense, at most asked scolded finished? Gas finished?
D.Will listen to others, but also empathy, so that people are very comfortable spitting things, will not messenger, causing misunderstandings, and not chicken.
E. Do not have high requirements for themselves, when others ask him, he is also careless, will not be very concerned about the appearance.
F.Slow movement, often procrastination, not as good as in procrastination what?
G.Like sports and nature.
H.He is a good talker, but he has no opinion and can't make up his mind for others.
I.I agree with others, so I can adapt to the environment, and I'm not too picky about everything.
J.Doesn't like to take risks.
K.Trusting and relying on others, they don't set high standards for themselves and others.
L.The person has the ability to resolve disputes, to speak well of both sides, and to understand the emotions and grievances of both sides.
Sixth, the common emotional feelings
Because of leniency, do not hold grudges, so the emotions often remain natural, smooth, warm and supportive of others, often to avoid bad feelings, have bad feelings, simply do not touch, unless others are really too much, otherwise it is not easy to have too many feelings.
Often fall into the trap of obsession - self-depreciation
Because their life expectations are not their own, but to follow the culture, traditions, customs, habits and to adapt, so they do not pay attention to their own inner needs, but also do not develop the self. They don't think they are unique, just ordinary people.
Eight, the mask of self-defense - self-absorption
Because they live in self-contentment and self-gratification, they are not active and do not want to notice any needs and feelings. There is no leap in life, but they are very satisfied, looking at the world through the prism of optimism, how to see how beautiful.
Waste of Energy
Energy is wasted on cooperating with others and fulfilling others. Since they are busy identifying with the environment and others every day, they do not develop their own personalities, and become lazy and lifeless.
X. Early Identification - Character Formation
Usually early life is to live a happy and satisfied, and parents are also very good, they feel that as long as the good, the day is so quiet and pleasant, so they very much like to enjoy this harmony and carefree, and do not want to do anything to break through to disturb the peace, so in every environment, always identify with others to achieve harmony. Beautiful.
Peace seekers emphasize stability, want to maintain harmony with others, keep things as they are, there is nothing great in the world, not being pushed by anything, too much suppression of themselves to feel for others, only to comply with others, "I don't want to have any movement," so that nothing will disturb him, often to avoid conflict and pain, often do not move, more lazy, once they move, they will be unstable, to change to meet all the changes, to escape from the chaos inside, and as a result detachment from the real world.
Very little relationship with parents, but identify with them and believe they love me. Being neglected I don't care, it's not worth my trouble, tone of voice flat lack of excitement, there is movement, nothing for him is of no importance to say why, life lacks color no authenticity, immovable: love is deprived of as a matter of course, don't go to pay attention to any harm. 〈With a humpback mind to seize the so-called inner peace.
Suppresses all inner conflicts, clears the inside so that he is not hurt, does not let others see him move. He has no experience of his own existence, no self-awareness, no self-love, always separates himself from the external conflicts, and leaves the external conflicts outside, so as not to let the external conflicts affect his inner peace, and succeeds in keeping his own stability. He has no experience of the pains of daily life, and is not aware of any internal conflicts.
His vitality depends on external sources, and he often needs external stimulation to move. When stimulated by others, he will regard small matters as big ones, and he will move a lot on unimportant matters, and it is difficult to stop, and he is eager to move, but he cannot understand the importance of matters. Does not show anxiety, seems to be listening, but cannot hear anything. Life is rarely should, there should be when I mess, very low superego, nothing for him is important, there is a forced sense of humor, will not be confused by emotions, stimuli, expressionless, very much like to stabilize other people down, to remain objective, stable, the things around by the big and small, small and nothing. Identifies with rest, boredom, tedium is very disturbing, must be fresh and exciting physical activities to help the vitality of life.
The most identify with the existence, the most easy to meet with the existence, there is a sense of center (sure of their own center there), there is a sense of root (really and their own inner unity), trust in his life in the center of the abdomen, do not casually impulsive, a sense of harmony to know the truth of the matter, get along with each other, to give others a balanced feeling, to become a hub of the emotional stability of the people. He can be trusted, sees both sides of people and things, has the power to balance people and things, is good at interacting with people who are difficult to interact with, often brings freedom, listens objectively, answers questions for others, is a good leader of a group, can adapt in a crisis, has no temper, is very relaxed, brings joy, is a peacemaker, and is the "salt of the earth".
Accepts people to be honest with each other, open and not egotistical, able to give to others and to the world. No pretense, naive, honest, not cunning, values people, lives in the world as if at home, and can feel his or her individuality.
Peaceful --- Tell yourself that by not expressing your opinion, you are not letting others know about you, but instead you are upsetting and making them angry.
Lazy to think, lazy to do → active to think, active to do → believe in your own wisdom → others will thus appreciate your wisdom.